Do you sometimes have trouble controlling your emotional responses to women? You know, a woman rejects you or says something that makes you feel bad, and you either shut down emotionally or start getting nervous? If so, you might think that you are doing a pretty good job of hiding it from her. But guess again…
Have you ever been able to read an emotional response in someone even though they were trying to hide it? If so, take that memory and magnify it by a factor of 10….that’s how much more intuitive women are than we are.
Considering this, don’t you think it might be a good idea to have control of your emotional responses around women? If you’ve ever had that mysterious moment where all the momentum seemed to die suddenly in your interactions with women, most likely it’s because you don’t have that control. [Read: Ways Of Addicting A Woman With Your Love]
So what can you do about it?
First, Start With Self Awareness
Learning to control begins with understanding your emotions. For most men, this idea is about as intimidating as trying to learn a foreign language. From early childhood, we’re taught that we are not to trust our emotions and that being in touch with them is not “manly.”
So building self-awareness by understanding your emotions might even be completely out of your comfort zone. But once you accept that it is something you have to do in order to enjoy amazing interactions with women, you’ll find that it’s actually a pretty fun and interesting challenge to take on.
A good place to get started in building self-awareness is by keeping a journal. Now don’t flip out about this thinking that it’s something only school girls do. Some of the most successful people in history were avid writers, including some of the greatest leaders of nations and other influential men in history.
You don’t have to spend a lot of time with this exercise, merely 15 minutes a day will do just fine. What should you write about in your journaling? Two Questions to Ponder…
The two most important questions you can ask yourself about self-awareness are:
1. What am I feeling? 2. Why am I feeling it?
Most of the time, you’ll probably find yourself looking for interactions with women during the day and asking yourself these two questions. As simple as these sound, they will help you to understand your emotions, which will give you a good head start controlling them…[Read: Is The Woman Out Of Your League?]
Finally, Redirect Your Responses
The second key to controlling your emotions is learning to redirect your response to them. For example, you might realize that you are feeling nervous when she touches you (even in an innocent way), and you might realize that you are slightly uncomfortable with casual touching.
Once you realize that this is the issue, you take a strong stance against your knee-jerk emotional response
by touching her back, or by telling yourself that your discomfort is irrational and that you have the power to change it. Over time, your knee-jerk emotional response will change along with your mindset and the actions that you take in response to the woman touching you.
This strategy can be applied to any circumstance where you realize that your emotions are out of your control and causing you to act immature, self-conscious or defensive.