Have you ever had your heart broken?
If not, you’re either the most fortunate person on the planet or you haven’t really lived. Everyone at some point has been through a bad break up, and they can be really hard to recover from. But since you have to get on with your life and continue your search for the right woman, what can you do to make a healthy recovery from a breakup? [Read: Top reasons why women reject men]
While it can sometimes feel like the end of the world and you might think that you’ll “never love that way again,” there is a way that you can recover and get on with your life…and sooner than you think…
So, Who Died?
Are you treating your break up like a mourning period for the death of someone you loved? If so, the first thing to ask yourself is if a “mourning period,” is really the best way to recover.
The majority of people spend weeks, or even months, after break ups without dating anyone or even considering a relationship at all. The problem with following this pattern is that the majority of people are not very successful in their relationships (just look at the divorce rate or how few people are happily married).
So unless she died, there’s no reason to mourn. Get on with your life and get back in the game. If you’re not ready to get serious, then don’t. But you never know what you might miss out on simply because you are waiting for the “right time,” or because you’re having a mourning period. [Read: Why women loose interest on nice guys]
You know, Martin Luther King once said “There is never a wrong time to do the right thing.”
Billions of people have gone to the grave with their greatest dreams still in their imagination because they
waited for the “right time.” If you spend too much time mourning your past relationship, you might just miss out on your chances at something amazing.
But what do you do if your emotion is so bad you can’t move on?
Get Outside of Yourself
The best way to snap yourself out of emotional pain is to help someone else who is less fortunate than you are. No, this does not mean that you have to turn into Mother Theresa or Robin Hood. But there is ALWAYS someone who is suffering more than you are and the more aware you are of their pain, the less consumed you’ll be by yours.
A break up may not be the end of the world…but it sure does feel that way and the more you sit in the dark and lick your wounds, the worse it’s going to get. If you want to get over your pain, get outside of yourself, get over yourself and you’ll find a strength and motivation that you were completely unaware of.
This isn’t just for the sake of surviving a break up. Making a contribution to less fortunate people will help you to become more compassionate, which will make a big difference in how you relate to women. [Read: Ways to penetrate her defense]
If you’re unsure how to get started on this, start doing some searching about non-for profit organizations or homeless shelters in your area. If this is too much for you, start by finding a friend of yours that needs your help with something and offer your your time to them. The personal benefit will be well worth it.
Finally, Put a High Value On Yourself
Most of the time, the pain of a break up comes from the feeling that you lost something of great value. Instead of taking on this mindset, put a high value on yourself and tell yourself that she lost out on something great, and that some woman out there will be very lucky to have you.
This alone will make the break up much less humiliating and painful.
I hope this helps if you’re in the stage of transition. Just be sure to take action with what you just learned.